Dating a geek advice


22-Jul-2017 18:58

There’s a heck of a lot of cultural messaging to the effect that [in a heterosexual relationship] it is a woman’s role to push for commitment and that men dread this conversation, which makes me both extra nervous about it and also kind of resentful.I would like to be able to leave those feelings at the door when I bring it up, but I’m so lost for the right words to use that I just end up getting even more anxious, and then I don’t bring it up at all because I want to be coming from a place of curiosity and confidence, not from a place of fear. He’s kind and responsible and we laugh together a lot and we are hella attracted to each other.It got me thinking, what advice would I give my children if they ever found themselves dating a person they didn't understand?Conversation on a first date can be excruciating, wouldn't it be nice to have a little insight into the interests of the person across the table?

Laughing at Sheldon's crazy quirks is fun so long as he's on TV, but not if you're dating him IRL.My general impression is that he’s interested in a relationship, but ‘impressions’ are not hard evidence and I just want to address it explicitly without my inner FEELINGS-VORTEX getting in the way.